Bring laughter and fun into your relationship
There is usually a lot of laughter and fun in a relationship when it first starts, when the two of you transition from simply dating to becoming a unit of some sort. The romantic phase of a relationship is when both of you are feeling optimistic about the future and finding each other to be a lot of fun.
The whole feeling of being high, however, tends to wear off as the relationship develops and deepens. At this point, power struggles start to emerge and the need to be treated as individuals reappears. In every relationship, this is the point when the enjoyment, the playfulness, and the laughter begin to wane. Playing on the spot and unexpected bursts of laughter are becoming less common. The added sense of security that comes with a stable relationship puts the brakes on the human brain’s capacity for playfulness.
The majority of people believe that since fun, intimacy, and laughter come naturally, they should be left to our lives’ natural events. But this hardly ever works. We have a tendency to take our relationship and our partner for granted as daily stress increases, as we become more and more preoccupied with work and other activities. From our former, carefree selves, we drift further and further away. Couples must devote the necessary time and attention to this. They must consciously decide to make time for play and fun. They must confront this problem. This may seem like a strange idea, but scheduling fun actually works. Most of us are so busy on a daily basis that we hardly ever have time for enjoyment. And if we can schedule time to spend with friends, kids, and for work, why not for fun?
Everyone’s mental health benefits from play and laughter, regardless of age. It is obvious that people who laugh more and enjoy themselves more are in better mental and physical health. Make it a point to laugh aloud, on the floor, for at least five minutes each day. Find a way to incorporate play and laughter into your daily lives as a couple. Do something playful with your partner at least once a week, as well as try out some enjoyable recreational activities. Get out there, do something simple and enjoyable, and go on a date. Attempt to devote at least half of your free time to romantic or otherwise shared activities. Both the health of your relationship and your own mental wellbeing depend on you and your partner playing and having fun together.
The body’s natural painkillers, endorphins, are released during laughter, which also makes you feel good. Additionally, it’s a great way for you to develop a deeper connection with your partner. Every now and then, take a few days off to enjoy an enjoyable vacation. Do whatever it is that will make you feel connected and will add fun and laughter to your equation. Find a hobby that both of you enjoy but haven’t had time for recently.
Whenever you notice that you are taking yourself too seriously, give yourself a mental shake and laugh at yourself. Find the humor in the situation by viewing the two of you and the circumstances from the outside. Decide to laugh instead of cry.