Fear and Divorce: What Effects?
Are you or your parents divorcing or in the process of doing so?
How is the divorce proceeding going for you? Is there perpetual conflict between you and the ex, or are you two able to coexist?
Which pain are you experiencing the most of right now? Are you worried about how the situation will affect your kids?
Are you experiencing extreme annoyance, rage, and anxiety because you are fearful of what the ex will do or say next to further complicate your life? Do you believe that your health is being harmed by the stress and anxiety?
When it comes to the ex, what do you fear most above all else? How have you been handling this? Do you ever feel like you are treading water all the time?
Can you do anything to help me get rid of this crippling fear?
The EX-Factor was developed by my wife Laurie and me to assist you in learning how to maintain harmony after your divorce and foster an environment where your children can flourish.
We are here to tell you, “YES, there is!”
Each of us has been in your position. We have personally gone through the emotional pain of divorce and have witnessed its impact on our children. Coaches and counselors have assisted us. We’ve put in the effort necessary for personal development. As your guides as you navigate the choppy waters of divorce, we are now fervently committed to being there for you.
What consequences does divorce-related fear have?
Fear is stifling because, when it dominates your thoughts, it has a tendency to consume you. Your reactivity increases the more unconsciously you are focused on your FEAR.
Gaining Clarity for what you truly desire enables you to achieve heightened Awareness so you can pause and pivot, or put another way:, think things through, and start being proactive. By being deliberate and logical, you can produce more of what you really want rather than more of what you do not want.
You can change your focus to focusing on your newly discovered Clarity for what you DO want once you realize that what you focus on is what you get more of in return.
Being reactive will more often than not result in more of what you don’t want than what you do want.
Consider this: When your ex suddenly becomes irate with you, she or he has lost control over both themselves and their interaction with you, and you will never want to do what they want you to do!
Similar to how you lose control of yourself and the interaction when you lash out in anger at the ex, the other person will never comply with your demands!
If you’re anything like me, the events that led to our divorce were unexpected in many ways. I was totally unprepared for anything because they came as a complete surprise, and as a result, I became trapped in a very reactive state.
My daughter was three years old at the time, and once I had true clarity about what I really wanted for her, I was able to STOP reacting. The very next day, the ex and I were in a situation that once would have made me angry. Instead, I took a deep breath and considered what I wanted for my daughter, which was for me to be the best parent I could be.
The result was that I BEGINNED to change the way I approached situations. I did succeed in maintaining my composure and restraint. The underlying dynamics started to change over the following few months.
Clarity gave my daughter and me the independence we never had before.
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You are here because you know that things can change for the better. For the sake of your kids, make a commitment to executing your plan to be the best parent you can be.
Stop being trapped in the destructive cycle of unconscious fear and start being the best, most aware parent you can be to ensure the success of your children.