How to Avoid Crisis: Failure Comes Before Success

Humans frequently experience breakdown before changing their behavior for the better, as I have noticed. I think the reason for that is that we are unlikely to change if we are at ease or ignorant. Unfortunately, it frequently takes a crisis to wake us up.

Gladys, a 55-year-old client of mine, was under a great deal of stress. She didn’t get much sleep, ate what she wanted, and took her kids wherever they wanted to go for classes or events without giving herself much thought. Cancer had been her awaking.

Gladys changed her diet, took much better care of herself, and did more of what she loved to do after many traumatic, frightening months of medical treatment and counseling. Of course, she dreaded dying or developing cancer once more. She needed no further admonitions, I argued, if she had taken the lessons from her crisis.

Gladys made a quicker recovery than the doctors had anticipated and is still cancer-free. She became aware of how to look after her body and lessen her stress.

Melinda, a professional of 60 years old, had been having relationship issues for a long time. Her discovery that her partner was having an affair and that he had moved out actually caused her to come to me in a very depressed state.

Melinda’s self-esteem was increased, and I assisted her in learning healthy ways to express her rage. Additionally, we practiced lovingly speaking her truth. She later met up with her partner, and things are going well. Her inability to address her problems prior to the breakup. and learn what it takes to maintain a loving relationship–high self-esteem and good communication.

I noticed that my 48-year-old friend Larry had put on a lot of weight, was eating whatever he wanted, and was drinking a lot of cream and sugar with his coffee when I last saw him. Larry found it amusing that I would cut out those and other foods from my diet. In addition, his work was causing him a lot of stress.

Later on, Larry required significant heart surgery. He is now aware of the actions he must take to keep his body in good shape. It took his crisis for him to start eating differently, exercising more, and adopting a positive outlook.

I advise learning what foods are healthy for you, getting the right amount of exercise for your age and physical condition, getting 7-8 hours of sleep every night, and letting go of anything in your life that is stressing you out if you want to wake up before you have a crisis. Learn how to let go of negative thoughts and replace them with positive ones. The ability to stay safe and healthy is something you do have.